Um, Marvin, If I May...

Ahhh..this song brings back such great college memories. There were not too many songs that were sexier than this one back in the day. I think I danced erotically to this song in my dorm room preparing to go out more than I did with potential partners on the dance floor. (and that was both a magnificent feat and a committed danger as I was using a curling iron for my hair while getting ready!)

My memory of dancing alone in a state of anticipated ecstasy is ironic relative to the last segment of the song:

"And when I get this feeling  
I need sexual healing
Ohh, when I get this feeling  
I need sexual healing
I gotta have sexual healing, darling  
'Cos I'm all alone  
And I need sexual healing, darling  
Till you come back home

Please don't procrastinate
It's not good to masturbate "


And here is where I must differ with my dear friend Marvin Gaye...

It is AWESOME to MASTURBATE!

Some of us may remember The Seinfeld episode called The Contest. According to the website ANSWERS:
"The episode was controversial when broadcasted because NBC thought that masturbation was not a topic suitable for prime time television. As a result, the word "masturbation" is never used in the episode. Instead, the subject is described using a series of euphemisms, while the meaning of the subject is still made clear to the audience.^[2] The writer of the episode, Larry David, won the Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Individual Achievement in Writing in a Comedy Series for his work on the episode.^[3] One euphemism used in the episode is "master of my domain", said by a character when still in the contest. It has become a catchphrase in popular culture, although it is not always used in reference to masturbation.^[4][5]
The episode was ranked #1 on TV Guide's list of "TV's Top 100 Episodes of All Time".^[6]"

Read more: http://www.answers.com/topic/the-contest-3#ixzz2LbT1uEh9

I was very surprised when a woman in my office was so vocal about how disgusting she thought the show was as well as how gross masturbation was. I asked her if she would rather have her middle school aged daughter out somewhere having sex with someone and put herself in any jeopardy of her health or have her daughter safe at home masturbating in the privacy of her own room. She firmly responded that she did not want her daughter to masturbate. I attempted to educate this woman about the wonderful aspects of people discovering what they like and don't like sexually, where their highest sexual arousal areas are, and the safety factors of erotic self discovery. She wanted no part in the discussion. She continued to claim that masturbation was disgusting. Finally, after much gentle questioning., she told me it was disgusting because she didn't like the idea that she could shake someone's hand after they had masturbated.

Number one question from youth when the class starts talking about masturbating: "Should we wash our hands before masturbating?" to which I always answer, "Yes." In respect of my old co-worker's fears, I also make it clear that hands should always be well washed after masturbating as well.

It is interesting that women especially have difficulty touching their genital area. If we don't support and encourage masturbation for girls we will perpetuate a pattern of women giving up their power to others. Women have a wonderful smorgasbord of erotic potential between anal, vaginal, and clitoral stimulation. What healthy, sexual, confident women would be sent into the world of relationships if they all hand their hands on a triple pleasure toy in their teenage and young adult years! 

We don't talk to our youth and young adults, they get bombarded with disempowering sexual escapades in the media, and then they fumble around in pairs and groups turning their sexual maturity over to others. I say become a masturbation specialist and then go exploring with others. Know where your biology is, what it does, and what it feels like when many different senses are introduced to these areas. 

Many men miss out on the wonderful and highly satisfying experience of anal arousal and orgasms because so much focus is culturally put on the performance of the penis and the penis orgasm.Having their prostrates stimulated can have life long health benefits for men. 

There are also potential nipple orgasms for both men and women. 

Some people get highly aroused yet do not have one big earth shattering orgasm. Others have spasming sexual intensity rushing over them for hours if given the time. Everyone can enjoy a very exciting, healthy, and successful sexual healing through the very good art of masturbation. 

Google around the web and learn more about the great toys available and the important health benefits to masturbation and arousal. Masturbation is a very low risk sexual behavior. 

So move over Marvin...there are plenty of classic masturbation songs...it is all good...Self Love is an excellent form of sexual healing...